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Social media is not for marketing

We see this all over the media and on blogs.

Social Media does not help you sell things.

And I’m kinda like DUH!

Social media is for interacting. For making friends, having conversations, getting feedback, responding to feedback, CONNECTING.

It is not passive. People are not sitting around waiting to be told what they want on social media. They are engaged.

It is not for marketing. Not for small marketing. People who have an established brand like Kim Kardashian or whatever, they can use twitter to sell. For the small and medium sized peeps: very little chance.

You are not going to sell to thousands. Social media moves too fast for that. It’s like a bunch of ADHD people on speed.

If I don’t know you, I really don’t care what you have to say. That’s why spammers don’t get anywhere. I don’t want to read your blog, I don’t want to read your novel, I don’t want to have anything to do with you.

I have a core group of friends on twitter and around the blogs I connect with on a regular basis. I talk to people about Dragon Age and other video games. I have a group of writers. I have my editor on there and I tweet how happy I am with her edits. I realized a few weeks ago a good friend went MIA and I am sad and a bit worried as he had a bit of depression (going to send him off an email). I have far too many hashtag searches.

And I do get tweets from fans. (Okay the best thing about this whole writing gig is I get to say I have fans. Me. Who woulda thunk it?) I get to thank them for reading, talk about characters, and let them know when a new book should be heading their way.

If I wanted a quick way to market, I’d buy an advertisement on Facebook. But I’m not in a hurry. I am sticking around and writing more words everyday. And as I sit at home writing in my room late at night while my family sleeps I realize it’s a lonely business and meeting with people on twitter and Facebook fills the social gap.

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Interspiration 5192012

Abandoned all hope #Row80 Checkin

Show time! Blogging is like live theatre. via@SusieLindau

Living the Yay Life. What you’s Yay thing? via@ColeenPatrick

4 stages of healing childhood abuse via @LouiseBehiel

5 things writer’s can learn from Taylor Swift.

It’s all in your perspective

Self-publishing is not the easy way. A rant from @AMhairiSimpson

DIY bedskirt tutorial. My daughter’s bed needs a bedskirt.

Random Acts of Kindness Blitz via @GeneLempp

the urge to purge: how to let go I need this, I’m trying to declutter. but now it’s all in the hallway

Always on the cutting edge @NatalieHartford on the latest in women’s undergarments.

thoughts for a well-trained mind: sucess via @Ali_Dent

This was a week when I shoved my foot in my mouth. Several times. I pissed my SIL with good reason on her behalf.

10 social media pet peeves. I agree with most of it.

Jealous!! RT @dragonage: Want to know what the first fans to see Dawn of the Seeker thought of the movie?

LOL awesome. RT @jesswitkins: Advice for Bella Swan via @wordpressdotcom

This is pretty powerful. The creator’s manifesto.

The difference between money work and busy work.

What you don’t really understand.

Why is fiction good for us via @Colin_Falconer

@NatalieHartford with urban word wednesday Famine Underwear Almost there, need to do laundry.

I bet when you blog about underwear you get lots of mentions and incoming links.

Value of Earning via @_FabioBueno_

Are you a gentlewoman?

Sometimes it’s the simple things via @KristyKJames

You are mom enough if someone calls you mom. YOU!

Things not to do: go on craftser, search DragonAge. Things to do: study writing course. @Dragonage for the win.

which lead to this:

to which I said I would like to fill my bed with all the characters, but I thought my husband might get jealous

Truths about you and your work.

Be the example you want to see

Stop dreaming the reasonable. Dream unreasonably big things from@thecreativepenn

10,000 Hours For Writers: (cool, short video)

The best way to network: serve others.

Where are your edges? via @justinemusk my edges and voice are emerging. This life is a work in progress.

How to write fast (at least faster).

That is super cool. RT @JessicaMerizan: If dragons were real, this is what I think they’d look like :)

How inspiring would it be to live at Pooh Corner?

Sex in public: finding liberation through fear.’Yan’s blog is one of my favorites online.

don’t use too many tags and other wordpress goodies via@SusieLindau

Blog better by slowing down.

Songs you can’t understand

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Interspiration #5122012

It was an okay week. Hubby worked a ton, which we needed. Got my first ever Smashwords payment (that may have been last week). Did a ton of work with How to Think Sideways course from Holly Lisle. Castle was AWSOME!! Hubby got dizzy with  benign paroxysmal positional vertigo, and which really has no treatment, but this weird thing called the Epley maneuver, which has a high success rate.

And I painted the wall behind the computer desk olive brown. Looks awesome, except for the white showing through the bits I missed, it’s a textured wall. Pictures later. Eventually.

Hope everyone had a good week. Sorry to everyone who had awesome posts that I couldn’t include or missed.

Things you must know: how to make fruity cocktails.

Good music for good cars? (at least the selling aspect) via @_FabioBueno_

Celebrate your artistic voice. via @ColeenPatrick

Summer TV is not just reruns anymore. Some higlights for your summer viewing. via @SSchroeder_

Don’t let your ego destroy your writing via @goinswriter

What is the experience that your creative genius is giving people? That’s your real business.

Guilty Pleasures: 1Bruce1

Best mentor ever? You be the judge. At least there’s a moral at the end of the story.

Finding self-compassion from positive parenting @fbpptb

There will always be an idea that looks better than the one you are working on. via @the99percent

Ready to make it big? via the receiving project.

Take environmental lessons from bad kitties. via@myplasticfreelife

Make a cotton tea bag.

Season finale that disappoints.

8 steps for an emotionally healthy family.

It must be a blog post if it’s posted on a blog. I want to whine about blogging way more than this post does.

Okay, I Got Nuthin

Revising to make old stories new.

What hasn’t Sears sold over the years? Addiction cures, and early “powered” butter churns. via @kbowenwriter

It is okay to leave stuff out. Sometimes it’s even better. via @JaneFriedman

8 reasons not to quit social media when you are burned out.

Major editing is like renovating. via @xandrajames

All in favor of this motion tweet #aye. Put Joss Whedon in charge of all entertainment. from @andrewmocete

How do you know when to give your children that next step of independence? @SSchroeder_

25 fresh blogging tips for everybody.

7 ways to gain more confidence in your creative work.

Making money via creative magic from @abccreativity

Body image myths and loving your body. via@AugstMcLaughlin

Yes, but mine already has sparkles. with a plan to save publishing.

Finding time for author blogging via @PassiveVoiceblg including a helpful video on how to use google reader.

I know from swapping crits with @LaraValentine1 this book is hot. i needed a cold shower.

Home made mod-podge.

A motivational thank you from @DanielleLaPorte reminders in here.

Rich people suck

$1000 kitchen reno. Labeled unbelievable, but we did our kitchen for a few hundred at our previous house.

When should you trust your gut?

darn you @elizabethscraig and your Twitterific links for the week. I have 10 windows open. 10!!

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twitter conversations with Zoe Winters

So Zoe Winters started it. It was not me, I swear.

I retweeted it, becuase it was funny and she replied with

There is a lot of issues that surround the highly intelligent and highly creative

She is pretty successful and a great writer, so I’d call that brilliant. And she has the good taste to write romance.  The crazy part well …

I have long admired Zoe Winters. If you have no idea who she is check out her blog.

#row80 check in, more sadness

Today sucked. Last Saturday we took our awesome, but indoor-outdoor cat to the vet because she seemed in pain and I had found a small wound that was pus filled. They cleaned it, gave her an anti-biotic and sent her home. She got out of the house unbeknownst to us Monday and I found her in the afternoon. I grabbed her and popped a huge abscess on her side and brought her in to clean it. It was huge and gaping. I called the vet, they booked me in first thing Tuesday (this morning even though this won’t post until Wednesday).  Hubby took her in, (Thank god because I’m sure I’d still be there) and she was torn open worse on the other side. Some sort of big animal got her and shook her around. There was nothing they could do but ease her pain.

RIP Snuffalupagus, Snuffi. You will be missed. She really was an awesome cat.

But it brings me back to loss, which seems to be the theme of this year.

So row80 goals.

Write 750 words 5 days a week. Right now I am at a bit of a loss on how to proceed with my novel. I got the heroine into a pickle and I don’t know how to get her back out. The pickle was something I envisioned from the beginning (though in a different point in the story) and now I’m stuck. So I’m concentrating on How to Think Sideways Course from Holly Lisle.

Blog twice a week. I have to refill my Friday posts, as what I had scheduled are at an end. And Mondays I write as I think of things that interest me.

Go for a walk or to the park or something. We hung out outside in the yard for a while today and yesterday we went for two walks. Tomorrow is supposed to be nicer so we’ll probably head for the park for a bit.

Clean up the yard.  Working on it. Tomorrow I have plans to clean the house, because I’ve been slacking off.

Tweet blogs with mentions. Did a few today. Tuesdays are a difficult day to find good posts. I’m also trying to steer clear of posting too many writing focused blogs, which is difficult because the bulk of my focus is writing, the publishing industry, and social media related to writing and publishing. I don’t want to get niched into writing about writing and Tweeting about writing.

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Cell Phones, Social Media and Romance by Kristy K James

I love Kristy’s blog. Usually she makes me laugh, but on occasion she will post something that makes me go HMM. You can check out her blog. You can check out her blog at: now that I’m done singing her praises you can read her actual words:

A relative of mine got married yesterday.  Well technically it was yesterday, but I keep screwy hours and, even if I don’t fall asleep until four in the morning, it won’t be yesterday to me until I wake up again.  Not that it matters for this particular blog, other than the fact that I’m just a hair on the sleep deprived side (what else is new…), with a daughter running a temp of close to 103.  Can we say ‘Not catching up any time in the near future?’

Okay, so why am I writing about a relative’s wedding?  Because there are already reception photos on Facebook.  Posted by her.  Just hours later.  And I just saw that she accepted a friend request a few minutes ago, presumably from her cell phone since there usually aren’t computers at weddings or receptions.  At least none I’ve ever attended.

Do I have a problem with the Facebook updates?  Nope.  There’s not a thing wrong with it. Not at all.  It just struck me how different things are today than they were even ten years ago.

Kristy K. James' cell phone

If my cell phone wouldn’t get so fidgety when it sees my camera, the picture might have come out better…

With cell phones able to access the internet, people can keep everyone up to date on every aspect of their lives now.  Got an emergency, great price on gas, delicious meal at a local restaurant?  With the touch of a few keys on your phone, you can let everyone in your Facebook and Twitter accounts know almost instantly.  Even at your wedding you can keep everyone who wasn’t there in the loop.  I understand one groom even updated his status on both accounts…just before he kissed his bride (which was taking it to extremes in my opinion).  ( the link is: )

Experts like to say that we’re losing something with social media.  Namely the skills to function socially, face-to-face.

Except, truth be told, I socialize more since getting on Facebook than I used to do.  Mostly because a lot of my family, and a fair number of friends, are on it, too.  People I’d see once in a blue moon (at the annual reunion, funerals, etc…) I now ‘talk’ to on a pretty much daily basis.

But updating statuses at weddings?

Why not? 

I might not have been there tonight, but I got to see a little of what was going on, which I enjoyed tremendously.    Add YouTube to the mix, and I can see what happened at the weddings of perfect strangers…like my all time favorite:

love this video.  Even though I have to make sure no one is around when I watch it because it brings tears to my eyes and makes it hard to swallow.  I always knew I turned to mush at parades when marching bands and veterans passed by.  Who knew I’d do the same thing over something like this?  A random YouTube video…

Anyone else react that way when you saw this, too?  And what is your opinion about updating statuses at weddings and receptions?  Does it take away from the moment, or is it just another way of allowing others to share in your special day?

Now pardon me because I need to watch the video again.  :)

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Row 80 11-27 Check In

Write 5 days a week.

I read this awesome post via the Passive Guy about how to write more. And I’ve been putting number 1 and 3 into action, can’t do much about number 2 right now but so far in few days of test runs, it has been helping. I haven’t been writing out on paper what I’m going to write about, but I spend time outside of my writing time thinking about the upcoming scenes.

– Blog 3 times a week

going very well.

Personal goals:

– Working social media during nap times 

I am saving good posts for my link mashup and Tweeting them as I find them. As I get more comfortable with blogging I find myself on Twitter less. But I find myself on the computer less in general in the past few months.

Flylady-type routines in the house to keep the house under control

It always amazes me how little time the things I put off (stacking the dishwasher, wiping up the countertops) actually takes me. Jobs that I dread doing only take 15-20 minutes. If I just did them in the first place they wouldnt’ weigh on my mind so bloody much.

I am amazed I am getting any writing done. Susan Bischoff got me hooked on Dragon Ages. Now her post talks about Dragon Ages Origins. We got Dragon Ages II. I didn’t pay that much attention until I found out how AWESOME these games are. So much better than Final Fantasy (sorry FF I love you, but your story lines are too linear and you do not have the hilarious dialogue).

“Could we perhaps do battle with a pack of pretty flowers and soft bunnies next time? I’d do much better.” – Merrill

What I love most about DA2, is the romance option. My poor mage girl flirts with everyone she can, but I ended up in a relationship with Anders, moved in with him and then I lost a battle. So I had to do the whole relationship again. Second time, I went to a main quest by accident and I had to reload.

So Anders says “I love you, I’ve waited so long to tell you” and instead of the nice option I ask him if he wants a sandwich.

Romance at it’s best. Doing the Anders romance thing three times however ruined Carly Rae Jepsen’s new song “Call me Maybe”. My daughter was listening to it on repeat and now I cannot hear the song without thinking of Anders.

Okay I’m a sucker for a good love story.

Here’s one more quote for you.

  • Varric: Blondie, I don’t mean to sound critical, but have you considered a new line of work?
  • Anders: Such as?
  • Varric: Pretty much anything? I don’t think “renegade mage” has a bright future. Or any retirement plan.


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