Asrai Devin- the Maven of Mischief

Putting the fun back in dysfunctional.

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Moved we’ve moved

I’ve wanted my own domain since was I was eighteen and I read feminist blogs and didn’t shave my legs ’cause I thought it was a cool feminist thing to do. (Now I just don’t because I’m lazy and busy).

And it just never happened until this week. I’ve transferred everything from this blog to the new website.

I am not in love with the theme. But I have to stop playing with it right now and do some writing. I loved the theme I had before this one, it was so pretty. But the comments were broken.

I am having trouble finding one I like, with a customizable header and custom colors and three column.

My big problem is I want SHINY things I’ve seen on other websites. I want my books featured on a side column. I want a custom blog. I want a custom site.

I want champagne. My budget is more box wine.

Or more get a hot guy to buy you a  drink and then walk away with it. Does anyone know a hot guy programmer who will set me up a blog for the joy of it?

Me neither. There’s part of me that wishes that I had gone in for computer science. really shoulda done that instead of English Major. There are no jobs with English Major as a pre-requisite. I never did finish it either. I dropped out after I failed English 110 my first year.

So I guess you are probably wondering where this new site is.


yes asraidevin DOT com. is my website. simple, easy, to the point.

Maybe in a bit I’ll hire someone to set up a website/blog. Or I’ll find a theme I really love. I do love my header or a couple snuggling on a picnic blanket. Anyway, I’ll probably post here when I put up a new blog over there, with a link. Once the new site starts getting my search engine traction I’ll phase this site out. Or not. maybe I’ll just transform this into my non writer blog where I write about … well never mind that’s another point.

I am trying to figure out a new posting schedule and new topics to bring. My number one goal is to show case some other authors, have guests posts and the like, to gain more visibility and keep myself motivated. Have to post when you promised someone else. I’d be a hermit if I could or just talk about myself. No one wants that.

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Things I hate: blogger captchas

For everyone and anyone who blogs via Blogger platform and wonders why I don’t comment, it’s because Blogger hates me.

I’m trying to comment on a post as I type this. It’s an owned website which uses the Blogger (google owned) interface for their blog. I’m going to give up. I really want to leave this comment so I am persevering.

Earlier I tried on the same site and the captcha wasn’t working. Which is what is usually the problem.

Tonight the problem is my wordpress address. Apparently it cannot be verified.

Half the time I can’t read the image that google/Blogger provides me for the captcha so I’m guess. And when I am sure of it, it just tells me I’ve typed it in wrong.

Oh it finally worked, but it’s being held for approval. Which I think happened two or three times, but i missed it.

Blogger make your captchas REAL words so we can figure out what it is we are supposed to type out. Or anyone using blogger, change to WordPress, please. (Which, said, I still use blogger for my smut stuff, but I don’t expect much commenting).


** the blog post in question is this:

to which I need to reply this:

It is too easy and often pushed on tired new moms to just “give baby a bottle”. Uninformed doctors, nurses, partners, friends and family push the issue on struggling moms. I don’t think the blame is solely on the mom. (It amazes me how few people search out knowledge for any topic). The whole culture surrounding babies needs to change.

Sure the post is blunt and judgemental. Judgment and/or criticism isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s like watching a friend make a bad choice repeatedly and staying silent or worse, supporting her choice to ram her life into a brick wall. Maybe she needs some blunt truth.

Maybe we don’t need to work so hard not to offend people. It is hard to take a hard stance


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Blogging …

I know blogging about blogging how boring.

I was just thinking about my process. It’s probably not the best. And if I did better I might get more views. I often write these things up late at night. I’ll be surfing Pinterest or Twitter or my blog feed reader and get ideas. Usually I’ll schedule a bunch of stuff in advance and ignore my blog for the next two weeks.

Eh I’m not here because I’m trying to grow my blog. I like yelling into an echo chamber. My focus is on my fiction. I am not into niche blogging right now. I’d like to be but I don’t have time to read into one niche ’cause all my free time is fiction time.

Anyway, I write these blog posts late at night. And then I hit schedule and I really don’t look at them again. Occasionally I’ll check to see if the formatting is good and I do read comments. But I don’t reread my content.

Yeah …

I should probably save those things into a draft and read it over just once more before it goes live.

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What do you mean Niche Down?

I want to know everything

I want to be everywhere

I want to fuck everyone in the world

I want to do something that matters

— I Do Not Want This written by Trent Reznor, Nine Inch Nails

I read a lot of different things about writing, and about business. I fancy myself an entrepeneur without a business. Yet. Writing is writing, I need to write fiction, but I need something more.

I love Danielle LaPorte, who led me to Marie Forleo. Who I am cursing.

If you go to Ms. Forleo’s website she has a free sign up for the “rich, happy and hot business school”. And I am a sucker for these things. My in box is quite over run with free newsletters that seem interesting. Anyway, I am watching her free video the 6 pillars of business. Which i only got half through.

And I’m pissed. Because the advice for business (and/or bloggers) is to NICHE DOWN. Niche, niche, niche, until you find your thing that are super excited about that you can sell.

I hate this advice. It makes me want to pout and kick things. I don’t want to stick to one thing.

Marie (see me and my good friend, Marie, who I know so well because I’ve been following her blog for a week now) says if you niche down first and get successful there, you can branch out later. You can listen to her say it in a video about “Should one combine passions or choose one?

alright, I can buy that. Barbara Sher says similar things. You can choose one passion for your money making, but still work on other passions on the weekends, or even less frequently.

I’ve exhausted myself on this little bit of soul searching. I don’t know where I’m going to go yet.  This is an ongoing struggle for me, as I try to find my place. This morning had me writing really artsy things in my head, a bit like Paulo Coehlo. Reading his work makes me feel pretentious, that’s how my artsy writing makes me feel. I love how it feels, but at the same time I feel like I’m posing. But I’m going to write it and post it. These things will probably venture into Mature territory. Much of my thinking time is “how can I add smut into the mix?”

What do you think of the advice to “niche down”? Does niche have a role in fiction writer’s blogs? Do you niche? Should I forget about the entire niche plan and just run wild?

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#Row80 checkin for this date

1) Write 750 words 5 days a week.

I have written in some form everyday, but a few days it was work on How to Think Sideways course by Holly Lisle, which is totally awesome. I’m loving it.

Had to abandon my WIP, the one referenced in my Lucky 7 meme. I made it a special world, but then did no world building, so I have to fix that somehow, I really love the characters and plot. A shiny new idea came to mind.

But again, not tracking word count. Blah.

2) blogging at least twice a week, not including Row updates and my interspiration link mashups for Saturdays.

my monday serious post and Friday Fun are working. I don’t have a backlog built up yet, but I’ll get to that. I’ve been reading too much about niche and panicking about whether or not I need a niche.

3) go for a walk once a week and go to the park with child(ren??) once a week.

went to the park last night with sunshine boy  and sunshine girl was at Karate

4) get the yard cleaned up. nuff said, the paining done.

It snowed on the weekend so cleaning the yard was put off.

Funny story with the painting. We did the floors in the living room sometime ago and on Sunday, while sunshine boy named, the girl and I decided to paint. I told her if she got paint on the floor I’d be ticked. She painted a while, we wiped up numerous splatters and found that it was easy. She got tired and quit and I was nearly finished and I ran out of paint. She went and grabbed the paint bucket and all of a sudden I heard “I didn’t mean to.” (DUH!) I turn and she’s on her hands and knees and half the leftover paint is in a pool on the floor and she’s crying.

Poor kid, she’s 9. I scooped up what I could, we used all the rags in the house scooping the rest. And I laughed hysterically. It was either that or cry.

5) Connect with others by using the @USERNAME when I tweet links to people’s blogs.

I tweeted a whole bunch yesterday, but last night and this morning, I haven’t checked my RSS feeds so maybe later today. I schedule my tweets for afternoon to early evening. Getting good responses from people I’ve tweeted links for, and I’m finding that I’m following a lot people’s blogs whom I’m not following on Twitter, so that is getting fixed up.

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#Row80 Check in

My first Row80 check in. Goals have not been on the top of my mind this week.

Let’s see.

Goal #1 750 words, 5 days a week. I wrote 7 days this week, no idea on my word count as I forgot to keep track. It’s not a habit of mine, as long as I write I’m generally happy.

Goal #2 blog twice a week. Going well, been doing random life posts on Mondays and Fun on Fridays and the occasional writerly thing scheduled for the middle of the week.

Goal #3 Go to the park and for a walk. Went to the park on Thursday with Boy, while Girl was at Karate, even though it was freezing with wind.

Goal #4. yard clean up in progress. Our new place has an enormous amount of trees and thus a great big deal of leaves.  We did 6 bags of leaves in the fall before the snow fell, the rest got shoved in a pile, we did 13 this spring and I have probably 3-5 more to do. Although some are going in my new compost bin, as soon as there is time to build that. And y’know lack of wind. (Okay there is never lack of wind, it’s the prairies).

Goal #5. Retweet by using mentions. I think more than half my tweet this week were with mentions of users, many people thanked me. I read this post. I read this post yesterday, titled The Twitter Thanking Crisis. Basically a lot of people tweet messages that seem like thank-yous, but are actually self-promotion. Some good tips and some ranting in the post.  Any thoughts on the topic? Do you engage in some of the activities she writes about? (I do, but they aren’t the only things I tweet, so I think I’m okay).

Happy Easter. My children got a bit of candy and Just Dance 3, which the boy is less than thrilled about; he loves the first one, but this one has songs he’s unfamiliar at this moment, a month from now will be a different story.  I will say it’s way more complicated than the first one, they don’t always show you the next move, relying on you to remember.

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Interspiration #122411

@_FabioBueno_ tells us about how amazing Stallone is. More than he seems for sure.

@DebraEve celebrates late bloomer Sue Monk Kidd.

The Passive Guy has had some interesting posts about Amazon. Here is a snippet from a third party about indies not being truly indie because we still have to go through Amazon et al. for distribution. Personally I’ll play my Amazon percentage to use their system.

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Interspiration this week.

Kristy K. James introduces us to her son and a video that will probably make you cry. This one is dear to my heart as I was an educational assistant and I have a niece with Down Syndrome. And in the video: Simon does have a heart.

Bob Mayer: Writing is the only art form that isn’t sensual.

Speaking of all in your head. Passive Guy has some blog therapy for insecure writers. I would never fire an agent who makes excellent popcorn.

Don`t forget to check out Samantha Warren`s blog treasure hunt.

Is it pessimism or realism?

Treat your inner critic like a drunk. From Nicole Maggi, good advice.

Enhanced by ZemantaLynette Burrows wonders if Man Caves even exist off TV. (And then I rant about in the comments about men spending time with their families).

Interspiration #3

The power of positive thinking from @ColeenPatrick

An ode to thick thighs and squishy bellys (and other unperfect bodies).

@TameriEtherton learns a lesson the hard way.

6 things you must know about sexuality. #1 Everyone is sexual

What a 4 year old should know. #1 They are loved.

@jenmariepowell on setting goals you can’t miss. Sometimes it’s okay to aim low if you are afraid.

Write what you know in action by Prudence MacLeod.

How to be a Dad gives us the parenting calorie chart

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Interspiration this week

Emma Burcart reminds everyone that moderation can be found in many ways

Caring for your Introvert via . Still one of the least understood character traits. Drives me crazy when introversion is equaled with shy. I’m a loudmouth but I still prefer to stay at home alone.

Janelle Madigan is feeling rebellious.

I feel like a martian and I’ve been “blogging” since before blogging was cool. Lynette M. Burrows says I’m not alone. Also who doesn’t love the muppet Martians from Sesame Street?

Enhanced by ZemantaUnicorns for Socialism gives us an appreciation cheat sheet and a list of suggestions on who to thank.
Scott Nicholson gives us a taste of  his meme addiction. My head hurts a bit after the Keanu meme, but disaster girl is kinda cute.