I wrote before about how I love to write romance.
But I am coming upon an issue with the fairytale aspect of it.
By fairytale I mean, “if you love someone then you are meant to be together forever and all other problems are moot.”
I’m struggling with writing, because this has oft been the essence of many a romance novel. We’re in love, so you and I will be together forever.
Never mind the hero and heroine only met sometimes days before. It doesnt’ take long to fall in love with someone. But falling in love doesn’t mean you should jump into anything. I bought into this myth too many times and made some mistakes, and managed to catch myself before making them.
The last time I did it I wound up with my current partner and he was the best one I’d seen so I elected to stop spinning the wheel of fortune and keep him. It’s been my best decision to date.
My life aside, I think it’s the wrong message to send to women, one that has gone on far too long. That’s reality however.
Fantasy is another issue. As a writer, it’s easier to just go with the fairytale. It’s another layer of complication that sometimes my story could do without. I also love the fantasy that one person can fix all the problems in my life.
But going with it, isn’t true to my thoughts on the subject. It also adds a layer of complication that might just make my story a bit better. And I can dream about inspiring someone, somewhere to think about her choices just a little harder before she jumps. (Isn’t influencing someone what we writer’s really LONG to do?).
So, as a reader or writer, how to do you feel about the fairytale aspect of romances?
Am I being too realistic (read that is fun killer) with the fantasy and the dream? Should fairytales stick around as escapstist fiction?
Or do you prefer fiction that ins grounded in realism?