I imagine I will be posting a lot of links to Single Dad Laughing. His posts are sometimes funny, but always, always make me think.
Recently he wrote about How the divorce rate could be lowered. His answer, emotional intelligence classes in school. Self-awareness classes for children.
The possibilities on this are endless. We could offer them for adults as well, who never got this training. Especially parents, because it’s hard for me to believe that there are so many people who still believe that spanking is an effective teaching method. Or that a young baby or child should be left alone to cry so they learn how to self-soothe. I never found it soothing to cry alone, personally. Human needs don’t stop with physical, emotional needs are just as important.
I just read in the past few weeks that time-outs, while a step-up from corporal punishment, are not very effective in changing behaviour. They are a punishment and general abandonment of your child during a time of great need. (I spend a lot of time reading positive parenting blogs, because my son challenges my calm).
Self-awareness. Conflict resolution. Non-violent communication. Perseverance. Real self-esteem boosting from within. Solutions based therapy. Tolerance for differences (can you imagine the political maelstrom?)
I think it was in Switch I read about a group of students who spent time learning that they were actually smart and that they needed to work (I’m writing from memory so the story may not be exactly as told). Anyway, students who received this time had improved marks and attendance.
What’s unfortunate, is those of us who are already pretty good at these sorts of things will take these types of classes, will search for more meaning and information on these topics. Those who truly need it, don’t recognize the need and will rarely seek out ways to be better. Which is why putting it in schools (and workplaces) would help a great deal.
Do you seek out ways to better yourself? What would you think if a program like this was implemented in schools?